Generally speaking DVD+RW and DVD-RAM are very close formats (except DVD-RAM has mandatory bad block management and DVD+RW has this as "feature" nobady I know implemented in hardware yet) and they both support recording from random address. Just like a hard disk. So you do not need to erease DVD+RW/-RAM when overwriting - just pass LBA 0 as starting LBA and everything would work fine.
Back to erase time - for DVD+RW/-RAM StarBurn does full format procedure, that's why it takes so long. Nero f.e. just overwrites file system header in "quick erase", we always drop to full format (at least in the first time for unrecorded media)... Question of a taste in general.
DVD-RAM are very easy to damage. I've spoiled a couple of disks with ejecting them during format so be careful! The only drives capable of writing to all of the -RAM media are Matshita/Panasonic (also the only one capable of working with media with cartridges). LG drives had also spoiled me some no-name DVD-RAMs from "Mr. DATA" brand and some Panasonic branded ones